Life is many things. Life is beautiful and miraculous, and it’s wonderful. But there is one thing life isn’t: easy. There are times when this is more apparent than others. We don’t always make it any easier on ourselves either; we hold onto notions and habits and notions that are incorrect, ludicrous, or even harmful to us.
We walk through life refusing to see simple truths because we’re worried they’ll be too hard to bare, without realizing that accepting them will actually make every day much easier and much more joyful.
Here are some difficult truths that we need to learn to accept. Once You Learn These 8 Hard Truths About Life, You’ll Become Much Stronger. Trust me.
1. Everyone You Love is Going to Die
Grim as this may sound, realizing that eventually you and everyone you know won’t be around forever will enrich and deepen your relationships. So many people take their loved ones for granted and feel an unrelenting sense of regret when they’re gone.
Parents, grandparents, friends — we never know when we may find out that they’re no longer with us. Have you called your parents lately? Call them now.
Our relationships are the most meaningful things we have in life and should be cherished.
2. We Give Our Lives Meaning
Buddhists believe that we create our own world with our thoughts and actions. Having a meaningful life, then, is a choice. We don’t have to go out and join the peace corps or end world hunger to have a meaningful life; a beggar at the grocery store can feel just as fulfilled as the CEO of a major company.
Often times, we’re too focused on what we don’t have and what we want and this makes our lives feel empty no matter how much we’ve achieved.
3. The Perfect Partner Doesn’t Exist
Many of us dream of the perfect romance and a partner that will sweep us off of our feet and into the sunset of an eternally happy ever after. In fact, most of us are probably guilty of daydreaming about our “perfect match” sometimes.
But how can it affect our real relationships when our partners don’t meet our picture perfect dreams? This doesn’t mean we should settle for someone we’re miserable with, but it does mean that we should always expect to put work into a relationship.
Think of it as an artistic masterpiece; you and your partner are the tools and you have to work together to make the canvas beautiful. We can be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, but not if we expect the canvas to paint itself!
4. Life Is A Game
Why should we walk on eggshells our entire lives, worried about getting something terribly wrong? This life is ours to learn from and experience. We should think of it as a game; decide what it is we want to do in life, learn the rules, and level up.
We can never achieve anything or be successful if we’re too afraid to play.
Have you ever heard of someone becoming a pro football player without ever setting foot on a field? Or an Olympic swimmer who never dipped their feet in a pool?
5. Figure Out A Way Or Don’t Complain
Almost everyone
has met someone who does nothing but complain about how his or her life
isn’t turning out the way they like it. We either tune it out or feel
frustrated with them. We think why don’t they just change it if they
don’t like it? But, if we’re honest with ourselves, we realize that
we’re not always much better.
“That teacher is too picky, her tests don’t make sense.”
“I just can’t learn how to do that, I have a condition.”
The
truth is that complaints rarely change anything and more often than
not, they hold us back. We need to be proactive and positive. We need to
believe that we can figure out a way. Otherwise, we can keep our
complaints to ourselves.
6. Be A Realist About The Big Things
Even though we shouldn’t take life too seriously, it’s important that we don’t let our right brain reign all hours of the day. There are some things in life we just need our more analytical mind for. For example, those of us wanting to become famous authors can’t just write some words and then find that, BOOM, we’re a best seller! No.
We have to take the appropriate steps to edit, promote, and publish our work. Most things worth doing take time and energy. Basically, everyone has to use their head sometimes.
7. Everything Ends
This is a lot like the first only it
may be a little harder to hear. Nothing lasts forever. We’ll only be
young for a little while and then we’ll be old. We’ll fall in love,
we’ll fall out of love, or lose the ones we love. We’ll live and then
we’ll die.
So many people before us have lived, loved, succeeded,
failed, and died. We need to remember that we aren’t any different.
Rather than being depressed by this, however, we can feel grateful,
excited, and even empowered in this life.
If things lasted forever, what
would make them special? Time and endings make things valuable. We need
to appreciate everything.
It's your turn to live. Enjoy it!
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